“We use our children for security. Then our children use us for security, and life is a mess. Give children their own security: Truth and God. It doesn’t matter if you have lied to yourself, or you have lied in your life, or that your parents lied to you. Just, for God’s sake, speak the truth for the sake of your children, so that they can understand that there is a truth—that is Sat Nam. Give them the true identity of themselves and you will have angels on the Earth.” -Yogi Bhajan
Many parents are obsessed with the notion of attachment parenting, but I am not sure if they actually know what it is. Some believe that in means to carry a 3-year old around in a case on their backs. We need to encourage mothering not smothering. Attachment parenting consists of bonding, baby wearing, co-sleeping, and breastfeeding. It creates emotional attunement to children’s needs and ultra responsive parents. It is all good stuff, but I’m going to tell you something that will really shock you. Ready? We can give our small humans only organic food, feed them only mother’s milk, keep them skin-to-skin for two years, or let them sleep with their feet in our face for the first seven years. None of this is the ultimate determinant of raising a stress free balanced child. All these methods and it comes down to this.
The most healthy and balanced children are raised by parents who have a clear understanding of their own history. [Read more…]