The most important relationship is the one you have with yourself. All of the people in your life are reflections of your past, present or future and can be utilized as a mirror to understand your state of wellbeing in order to change your vibration to a higher frequency. If you have issues in relationships it is never really about the other person, it is about the your misalignment with your true self and a lack of acceptance of what is. Rather than trying to change the way that other people act we need to learn to change our thoughts and emotions about the situation and ourselves. We must stop looking outside of ourselves for approval and love, and stop focusing on what other people think of us
We can gauge our alliance to Source by tuning into our emotions, overall mood and internal sensations. If we are emanating positive feelings such as joy, eagerness, acceptance, and enthusiasm for life, we know that we are going to attract similar experiences. If we are coming from a sense of lack and reside in a state of fear, worry, anger or frustration we are going to attract people with similar emotions. Our feelings are our built in navigation system, which helps us to see if we are out of alignment.
One of the main reasons we become disconnected is because we constantly focus on what we do not want in relationships rather than what we do. Our minds are quick to create separation by acknowledging what other people do wrong, rather than what they are doing right. Instead of focusing on all the great traits in individuals, we tend to belittle people by talking about their faults, which are really just a reflection of our own insecurities and issues. We are drawn first to the negative aspects of situations because of our natural instincts to protect our selves. If we do not quickly realign our thoughts to focus on the positive aspects of what we do want to experience in relationships, we will undeniably bring in more of the negative because that is where our vibrational point of attraction is.
Esther Hicks, who channels a Source of energy named Abraham, was the first person to speak about the law of attraction. Her channel Abraham made it clear that you get what you think about, whether you want it or not. When you attract relationships that are no longer in alignment with who you really are, these are great opportunities for growth because they offer you a contrast. You cannot know who you really are until you experience who you are not. When a relationship occurs that no longer suites your desires you can sit with the negativity or you can choose to expand. Expansion is when you choose to have a new experience that aligns with who you are in the moment and creates a greater potential for joy and creativity.