I have decided to complete 365 days to Creating a Happy Family. I will share a practical way to change yourself and your family here everyday through self discovery. I’m hoping to shed some more light on places that I need to grow in order to become a better mother, wife and friend. Perhaps you may find this helpful too.
DAY 1 – Reducing My Reactions Through Breathe . I have been working on my reactions to myself and my kids. When I am in a state of joy and enthusiasm, my entire world mirrors that. My children play independently, they don’t fight or nag and house stays calm. It’s never about how “bad” they are it’s about my own internal feelings and thoughts towards them. When I’m in control, happy and grounded they are too and there is nothing to react to. One way to maintain this type of environment is to laugh a lot more – and another is to slow the breath. Here is what Yogi Bhajan says about the one minute breathe:
“On the average you take fifteen breaths per minute. Suppose you had one hundred years to live. If you breathed at the rate of one breath per minute, you could live for fifteen hundred years because life is measured by breath, not by years or calendars. When you are out of balance your breath will be shallow and fast, and you will average twenty to twenty-five breaths per minute. In good health you breathe ten to twelve breaths per minute, and in the best mental state, you breathe five to seven breaths per minute. But if you practice one breath per minute for eleven minutes a day, you can be in control of your mind.”
Before you do anything align yourself first. Breathe is a good way to start, but laughter or thinking about anything that makes you happy also works. I am going to start to slow my breathe every time I pick up my phone (because its always right there) and keep this object as a reminder to check in to where I am in the moment. My goal is reduce any need to raise my voice or use time out.